Be Someone's Titus

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Discover creative ways to encourage others and to motivate them toward acts of compassion, doing beautiful works as expressions of love. —Hebrews 10:24 PT

A genuine friend encourages and challenges us to live out our best thoughts, honor our purest motives, and achieve our most significant dreams. —Dan Reiland

When we arrived in Macedonia, there was no rest for us. We faced conflict from every direction, with battles on the outside and fear on the inside. But God who encourages those who are discouraged, encouraged us by the arrival of Titus. His presence was a joy, but so was the news he brought of the encouragement he received from you. When he told us how much you long to see me, and how sorry you are for what happened, and how loyal you are to me, I was filled with joy! —2 Corinthians 7:5-7 NLT

In 2 Corinthians 7:6-7 Paul ties two important ideas together…

•          We need God! We’re toast without Him!

•          We also need each other! We were never meant to do life alone! 

Paul basically said, “God encouraged me… He was there… but I also needed somebody with skin on… so, God sent Titus. His presence and his words helped turn my situation around! God used that dude in my life.”

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There are four types of people on life:

ADDERS – People who ADD to your life.  They add JOY, STRENGTH, COURAGE, FAITH and the ABILITY to GO ON.

SUBTRACTERS – People who SUBTRACT from your life.  They subtract joy, strength, courage, faith and make you feel like you want to quit.  Subtracters don’t BEAR your BURDENS.  They make the ones you’re carrying even heavier.

MULTIPLIERS – People who MULTIPLY things in your life.  They multiply JOY, STRENGTH, COURAGE, FAITH, the ABILITY to GO ON and your EXPERIENCES in life.

DIVIDERS – People who DIVIDE your life.  Dividers take you down as low as they can as often as they can.  Dividers are damaging because, unlike subtracters, their negative actions usually are intentional.  Dividers can wreak havoc on your life.

Titus was, at minimum, an ADDER. But I believe he was a MULTIPLIER.

God’s desire of every one of us is that, at minimum, we would be ADDERS; but hopefully we become MULTIPLIERS! 

Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. —1 Thessalonians 5:11 NIV

That’s the same Greek word that shows up in 2 Corinthians 7:6. It’s the same word Jesus used for the Holy Spirit. It gets used about 105 times in the N.T. It means to “come along side of, admonish, counsel, exhort, comfort, cheer or to strengthen.”

Paul says, “Here’s the way we’re to relate to other people: Come along side your friends and the people in your relational world. Let them know they’re not alone. Exhort them, comfort them, urge them on, challenge them to do the right thing, be their biggest cheer leader, give them Scripture-based, Christ-centered advice and add strength to their lives.”

That’s the mandate God’s Word puts on every one of us! That’s how we are to relate to one another! 

So, how do you become someone’s “Titus”?  Show up! Speak up! Step Up!

SHOW UP simply means just be there! 

when we come together something beautiful will happen as we are encouraged by each other’s faith. — Romans 1:12 The Voice

SPEAK UP means speak life and encouragement.  Our words are powerful and either encourage others — add and multiply their lives, or they subtract and divide from their lives.

The Master, God, has given me a well-taught tongue, So I know how to encourage tired people… —Isaiah 50:4 MSG

STEP UP or get creative. 

Discover creative ways to encourage others and to motivate them toward acts of compassion, doing beautiful works as expressions of love. —Hebrews 10:24 PT

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Some Creative Ways To Be Someone’s Titus:

•          Learn the person’s love languages (gift giving, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service and physical touch). Express love in the way they will best receive it.

•          If something encouraging comes to mind, share it.

•          When you introduce someone, add a few words of praise that acknowledges something special about the person’s character, abilities, accomplishments or your relationship etc.

•          Send flowers.

•          Give an unexpected gift.

•          When someone is hurting or discouraged, offer specific, practical help.

•          Send someone a handwritten letter or note.

•          Humbly remind them of the promises of God. Don’t preach… gently remind.

•          Pray for them and let them know you’re praying.

•          Send them an email.

•          Make celebration more of a regular part of your relationship. Don’t take yourself so seriously.

•          Be specific when you offer words of praise.

•          Encourage them by reminding them of our ultimate hope — Jesus is coming again. “Therefore encourage each other with these words…”

•          If you’re part of a church, be committed by showing up. “Whenever two or three are gathered in my name, I am there…”

•          When someone is working on a big project, send them a note, gift, text or email.

•          Use appropriate touch. Hug, high five, fist bump, kiss… the key word is “appropriate.”

In short, every time you think of something good, uplifting, positive and helpful about someone else… SAY IT!

Now, go and be someone’s “Titus”!  Encourage someone today and every day!